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Sometimes the best way to say something is to just show tong..

Sometimes the best way to say something is to just show tongue👅

📚🎬 Books and films that changed my view of male sexualityAft..

📚🎬 Books and films that changed my view of male sexuality

After becoming a sexologist, I realized one thing: everything I once thought about “male sexuality” is not an experience, but a set of other people’s expectations, media images, and myths.

Real understanding came later. Sometimes — at appointments. Sometimes — through a personal crisis. And sometimes — thanks to books and films that gave me goosebumps.

I’m sharing what changed my view and, perhaps, will help you too.

📖 1. “The Man Who Was Raised by His Mother” — Eli Lieberman

About the inner boy who was taught “to be strong,” but forgot to explain how to be alive.

This book helped me rethink why many men find it difficult to talk about feelings, admit fears, ask for support.

Sexuality is not only about the body. It’s about contact with yourself.

And when you are not in harmony with yourself, you cannot be truly close to anyone.

🎬 2. The film "American Beauty" (1999)

Not about sex. About an attempt to regain a sense of life.

Kevin Spacey's character goes into crisis, loses everything - but gains the main thing: the desire to feel.

Male sexuality is shown here not as a conquest of someone, but as a return to oneself.

Very accurate, very real. And a little painful.

📖 3. "Male Sexuality" - Brian Tracy (yes, that one)

Sounds like pop psychology, but it has something important:

a man is not a set of functions, but a whole system of emotions, fears, ambitions and wounds.

And until you understand yourself, "technique" will not help.

After this book, I began to conduct consultations differently. Not about erections. About the value of a man as a feeling person.

🎬 4. "Inception" (2010)

What is Nolan doing here?

Shows: our mind is a labyrinth.

And sexuality often gets stuck somewhere in childhood grievances, guilt towards the ex, fear of being vulnerable.

This is not a film about sex, but it is very much about how we lose contact with ourselves, and how important it is to return to it.

📖 5. "Wild Men" is a film that sexologists do not recommend, but I will still say

Male friendship, midlife crisis, confusion, rebellion against routine.

It looks like a comedy, but behind it there is enormous loneliness and a search for meaning.

Sexuality there is not about bed. About the feeling that you are still alive.

🤔 Why is this important?

Because male sexuality is not about porn and "should".

But about the freedom to be yourself.

And until we admit our vulnerability, desires, fear of being rejected — no “life hacks” will help.

💬 And now to you:

What book or film changed your view of relationships, intimacy or yourself as a man?

Write in the comments — I also want to read and watch what is important to you.

If you are interested, I can put together a selection of books for men who are tired of being “strong” and want to be real.

🕒 "One day in the life of a sexologist: myths vs reality"Whe..

🕒 "One day in the life of a sexologist: myths vs reality"

When I tell people that I am a sexologist, most often I see one of two reactions:

Eyes are expanding: "Wow, this is probably your day!"

Crooked grin: “So you ... do this all day, right? 😉 "

Well. Let's dispel myths.

Myth No. 1: The sexologist talks all day about poses, orgasm and BDSM

📌 Reality:

80% of the time is talking about anxiety, fear of intimacy, unrealized expectations, self -esteem and ... guilt.

A little like psychotherapy, but with an emphasis on the body, feelings and intimacy.

And the poses ... well, sometimes there are, but this is not the session of the session 😅

Myth No. 2: My patients are always “sexually liberated” people in latex

📌 Reality:

Most often, these are good, tired people in a sweatshirt and jeans who just want them to manage their proximity.

Men come with anxiety because of failures, women-with resentment and misunderstanding, couples-in the hope of feeling each other again.

Yes, sometimes there are unexpected cases, but rather these are jokes for a narrow circle of colleagues 😄

Myth No. 3: A sexologist lives like a hero from an erotic film

📌 Reality:

Morning: oatmeal, coffee, thoughts like "so, do not forget to print a training manual."

Day: 5 consultations, a break - a snack of banana in the corridor.

Evening: working notes, messages from customers with the phrase "Sorry, but you can question ...".

Night: I dream not about sex, but about blanket and silence. 🤷‍♂️

Myth No. 4: Sexologists know everything and are never mistaken in relationships

📌 Reality:

We are also people. Complex, feeling, sometimes tired and ... imperfect.

But we have one difference: we can reflect and admit that we need to work in a relationship.

You need to understand, listen, talk.

And yes, I was also once angry and was silent. Now - I try differently.

👉 If my work looked, as some people think, I would already write the book “50 Shades of Reception”.

In the meantime, I just try to be useful, to speak honestly and without a taboo.

Because sexuality is not only about “how”, but also about “why” and “with whom”.

👀 I wonder what you would ask the sexologist if there were no constraint?

Write in the comments anonymously or not - I will answer honestly.

And yes, no question is “stupid”. There is only one that you never set.

How to find a work-life balance without losing yourself?As a..

How to find a work-life balance without losing yourself?

As a sexologist, I often see successful people forgetting about the importance of work-life balance. Career success is great, but without time for yourself, family, and hobbies, there will be no happiness. Here are some advices on how not to lose yourself in the pursuit of career achievements:

Clearly separate time for work and rest

When the day begins, I know exactly what needs to be done. But in the evening, I switch off from work and pay attention to my family or personal hobbies. It is important not to let work "take over" all your time. 🕒

Take breaks for yourself

Every day, I set aside time for short breaks: 10 minutes for breathing exercises or meditation to recharge. Such moments help me stay in harmony and be more productive. 🧘‍♂️

Taking care of your body and sexual health

It is impossible to be successful if you do not take care of your body. Sports, proper nutrition, adequate sleep — all of this is important. And for a successful relationship, intimate life plays a key role, and I always remind my clients about this. 💪❤️

I find time for loved ones

I don’t forget about my family and partner. Even if I have a busy schedule, I always set aside a few hours a week for quality time with loved ones. This helps maintain an emotional connection and maintain balance. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

Hobbies as an anti-stress

Sometimes the best way to recharge is hobbies. I always advise my clients to find time for what brings joy and relaxation, be it reading, sports or creativity. 🎨📚

Work-life balance is not a utopia. The main thing is to learn to set boundaries, take care of yourself and not forget about what is important for your happiness and harmony in relationships.

Be successful, but don’t forget about yourself! 🌱✨

When the inner world is in order, the external reality itsel..

When the inner world is in order, the external reality itself is built❤️

What inspires me every day? 😌Honestly? Not sex. And not even..

What inspires me every day? 😌

Honestly? Not sex. And not even psychology. Although, I admit, working with people and the stories that they trust me are powerful 💬

But it's not themes that inspire me first and foremost, but states.

I'm inspired by movement 🛣️ Not in the gym, not on the treadmill, but in life. I can't stand still - it's important for me to feel like I'm going somewhere. Even if it's sometimes in small steps, even with mistakes - but forward. Even if it's just making breakfast in the morning not from scrambled eggs, but from what you really want 🍳➡️🥑 That's also a step.

I'm inspired by men who aren't afraid to be alive. Not "strong", not "successful", but real. When I see someone next to me breaking stereotypes, saying “I’m tired” or “I don’t know,” but still continuing to live and try — I really get a thrill 🤝 Because I see myself in it.

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I’m inspired by conversations without pretense. Where no one owes anything to anyone, where you can be without reservation. I have a couple of such friends — with them I can be not a “sexologist,” not an “expert,” but just a person who also has questions 😅 Sometimes these conversations are more important than any book 📖

And also — I’m inspired by silence. Yes, that very moment when you turn off everything, sit down and just listen to yourself 🤫 It can be 10 minutes on the balcony or in the car in the parking lot 🚗 At such moments, something comes that you won’t hear in the hustle and bustle.

And of course, you ❤️ People who read, ask, argue, laugh and sometimes write: “Hey, your post helped me look at myself differently.”

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That’s why I wake up ☀️

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What inspires you? 👇

❌ I disagree with the popular notion that...Some ideas are h..

❌ I disagree with the popular notion that...

Some ideas are heard so often that they begin to seem true.

But I disagree. As a sexologist. As a human being. As a live interviewer who has heard hundreds of stories.

Here's what I disagree with:

🗣 That talking about desire is shameful.

🛏 That sex in a long relationship inevitably gets boring.

🧱 That men don't have sexual vulnerability.

📆 That sexuality ends after 40.

💋 That “nice girls” don't talk about sex.

📸 That the body has to be “perfect” to be desirable.

💧 That being emotional is a weakness.

🤝 That intimacy is only about sex.

🛠 That a sexologist is only “about technique in bed.”

🔮 That if your partner doesn't guess your desires, he's bad.

🧳 That problems in sex are embarrassing to discuss.

📌 If any of these resonated, write them down.

Which thought would you also disagree with?

Or vice versa - which of these things do you still have a hard time letting go of?

Let's talk about it honestly.

💬 Phrases that make a woman feel 👑 queenSometimes a couple o..

💬 Phrases that make a woman feel 👑 queen

Sometimes a couple of words are enough to make a woman next to you feel 💖 desirable, valuable and really special.

Sex isn't just about technique. It's about atmosphere, attention and what you say (or don't say). Here are the phrases that work better than any flyhack from the internet 👇

💫 “I love the way you move”

- this can be more powerful in bed than “you're beautiful.” It's about admiring her body in action, not just her looks 👀🔥

💫 “You make me feel real”

- recognizing emotions = maturity. It's important for a woman to know that she not only affects your body, but your soul 🧠❤️

💫 “Say what you want - it's important for me to hear you”

is one of the most powerful phrases. You open up a safe space 🛡️ where you can be yourself. Without shame or masks.

💫 “You're so sexy when you're laughing / angry / relaxed”

- not a trite “you're sexy” but recognizing it in a live manifestation 😏✨

💫 “You just drove me crazy”

- even after years together, this phrase can rock if it's sincere 💥💋

🌹 A woman remembers not only your touch, but also what you said in moments of intimacy.

Words are part of foreplay. Sometimes the most important one. 💬💞

Magic mirror, on the wall, who in this land is fairest of al..

Magic mirror, on the wall, who in this land is fairest of all?
- You are the fairest, no doubt at all❤️

If your body became a canvas: What would you choose? 🤔Imagin..

If your body became a canvas: What would you choose? 🤔

Imagine you are a living work of art. What would you paint on yourself?

🎨 Body painting and me — a story about freedom, body and col..

🎨 Body painting and me — a story about freedom, body and colors

I never thought that one day I would stand almost naked in front of a mirror, covered in colors, and feel invulnerable. The first time I tried body painting was by accident — a friend dragged me to a festival, and there was an artist who was painting on people right on the street. I doubted it. It was scary, awkward. But at some point I just said: "Yes." And you know what? It was one of the most powerful moments of self-acceptance. ✨

Body painting is not about "getting naked" or "showing your body." It's about seeing yourself differently. I watched the color fill the curves, lines, moles, and suddenly realized that my body is more than just a shell. It is a part of history. A canvas that breathes. 🌈💫

Since then, I've done body art several times - for a photo shoot, for an art project, and just for myself. And every time it's like therapy. You erase boundaries, remove masks, allow yourself to be. 💖

It's not about ideal forms. It's about honesty. About the color inside. And about how beautiful it is to be yourself. 🌸

🎨 Body art is an art where the body becomes the canvasBody a..

🎨 Body art is an art where the body becomes the canvas

Body art is not just paint on the skin. It is a way of self-expression, performance, fashion and meditation all in one. It can be bright and provocative, minimalistic or ultra-realistic. Each drawing on the body tells a story, expresses an emotion or conveys a message.

🔥 Why body art is more than makeup:

It is temporary, but leaves a strong impression.

Allows you to erase the boundaries between art and man.

Suitable for a creative photo shoot, as well as for a festival, show or personal project.

📸 Today, body art is increasingly used in the fashion industry, advertising, cinema and even therapeutic practices. It is a way to see your body in a new way and accept it as part of art.

💬 Have you ever tried body art?

A woman's smile is something special. It can be mischievous ..

A woman's smile is something special. It can be mischievous 😉, gentle 🥰, wise contemplative, or absolutely dazzling ✨, but it always carries authenticity and depth. This is what makes every woman unique and capable of working miracles: inspiring 🚀, calming 😌 and simply making this world a little more beautiful 🌸.

Allow yourself to notice this beauty. It is everywhere, and it is priceless. 💖

"And when you smile, the whole world stops and stares for a ..

"And when you smile, the whole world stops and stares for a while. 🌎✨

'Cause you're amazing, just the way you are." 🥰

— Elvis Presley, "The Wonder of You" 🎶

Hello men! We often talk about what true male power is and h..

Hello men! We often talk about what true male power is and how it manifests itself in life and in relationships. But what if this force is not in muscles and not in the amount of money? What if it is born inside and determines everything else? ✨

As a sexologist, it is especially interesting for me to understand what makes you feel confident, attract what you want and be truly free. 🚀

Tell us: what is your self-confidence foundation for you today?

🎉 My morning rituals: I reveal the cards! 🎉Hello everyone wh..

🎉 My morning rituals: I reveal the cards! 🎉

Hello everyone who participated in my little game! You were so actively wondering what 3 unchanged morning habits I have, without which my day does not begin. There were so many interesting assumptions!

Well, it's time to open all the cards and name the correct answers. Drum fraction ... 🥁 My morning rituals, without which I am nowhere:

💧 B. I drink a glass of water with lemon immediately after waking up 🍋

This is my very first step that helps the body wake up and start all processes. Water with lemon perfectly refreshes and gives a feeling of purity from the inside. It is like a small ritual of detox, which instantly invigorates and prepares the body for the new day.

📧 D. I check all incoming messages and mail 😉

I know that many will say that this is not the best habit immediately after awakening, but for me this is a way to keep abreast of events and react quickly to important things. I do not plunge into endless scrolling, but only look through the main one to understand what awaits me ahead, and not miss anything important. This gives me a sense of control and readiness for working tasks.

🤸‍♀️ Z. I do several stretch marks or yoga 🤸imes

After sleep, the body feels a little "delayed", and light stretch marks or several yoga asanas is the perfect way to wake him. This helps relieve tension and give the body flexibility. Even 10-15 minutes of such activity make me much more energetic and relaxed, preparing for physical and mental loads of the day.

Who guessed all three? Share in the comments if you managed to solve my morning "riddle"! 👇

Among the streams of water and the games of light captured a..

Among the streams of water and the games of light captured at this photo shoot, I gain inner peace, updated for the coming day. 🧘‍♀️✨ I really appreciate these moments. What emotions do they cause you? 😊

☕ My morning: Guess 3 routes that I always do! ☀️Hi all!Morn..

☕ My morning: Guess 3 routes that I always do! ☀️

Hi all!

Morning is not just the beginning of the day, this is the time when we lay the foundation for our productivity and mood. Each of us has our own morning rituals that help us start the day correctly. And I have 3 unchanged habits, without which my morning is simply unthinkable.

I want to offer you a small game: try to guess which 3 routes from the list below I always do in the morning.

Here are options. Among them are the same three, without which my day does not begin:

A. Intensive morning training for 60 minutes 💪

B. Meditation in complete silence for 15 minutes 🧘‍♀️

B. I drink a glass of water with lemon immediately after awakening 🍋💧

G. I am writing 3 pages of the stream of consciousness in the diary ✍️

D. I check all incoming messages and mail 😉

E. I cook smoothies from greenery and fruits 🥬🍓

J. I am listening to the developing podcast, while I am going 🎧🧠

Z. I make several stretch marks or yoga 🤸‍♀️

What do you think from this list is my perfect morning? 😉

Write your assumptions in the comments! In my stories I will tell you the correct answer 👇

Very important poll!Do you think I have panties under my dre..

Very important poll!
Do you think I have panties under my dress?😈😘

❤️ Еmotional closeness as an aphrodisiac: more powerful than..

❤️ Еmotional closeness as an aphrodisiac: more powerful than Viagra? 😏💥

Guys, honestly - what really starts? 🔥 Lace linen? 🍑 Figure? A vulgar whisper in the ear? Yes, all this is cool # ... But if inside it is empty, then there will be no passion. Do you know what really turns on? 👉 When you are on the same wave. When it is calm with her. When you can speak, feel, be yourself. 💬🧠

Emotional intimacy is not “sugary conversations under a blanket” 😅 This is when you can open, not being afraid to be misunderstood. When she looks at you, and not just at you. 👁️ tot and then - the present begins. A goosebumps from one touch 🫣, a look from which you want to tear off clothes, sex, after which you not just “completed the task”, but survived the moment. 💯💫

The problem is that we were taught: to be a man is to be iron. 💪 But the truth is that the most powerful men know how to feel. They are not afraid to say: “I am important”, “I am worried”, “I want to be closer.” And this is precisely in this - a huge force. 🛡️⚡ Because when you are alive, you are real. And when the real one, they want you at a different level. 😮‍💨🔥

So... do you just want to “have sex” or live the moment from which it blows the roof? 🤯 Do not be perfect. You have to be sincere. Everything else is a technique. 😉

💬 Did you have such sex where there were more feelings than movements? Where did you feel - not just a body, but a soul nearby?

🔥 5 errors that kill passion in relationships 🔥Guys, it's ti..

🔥 5 errors that kill passion in relationships 🔥

Guys, it's time to talk about what really affects your sex life. Sometimes without even noticing, we do things that kill passion in relationships. This is not only about sex, but also about emotions, attention and, of course, efforts. So, if you want the relationship to remain hot, read on! 👇

1. Forget the little things 😶imes️

We all love comfort, comfort and routine, but forget about romance - a number one mistake! 💔 Small things, like compliments, unexpected kisses, joint evenings, or even "just like that" of a surprise is fuel for passion. Do not think that she knows everything and does not need these gestures. Adhere to what works throughout all relations - attention and care. 💘

2. Sex as a "duty" 😬

Sex should not be something that you do just "because you need." When you perceive intimate moments as a duty, passion fades away. 🔥 Sex is a bilateral game. Give up completely and enjoy the process, and not just focus on your pleasure. If sex becomes a routine, there is nothing more destructive for the relationship. 💥

3. Ignore emotions 💭

Sexuality is not only physics. If you do not pay attention to the emotional side of the relationship, passion goes as quickly as it comes. 😶‍🌫️ support it not only in bed, but also beyond its borders. Talk, share your thoughts, experiences, arrange "gentle moments" outside the bedroom. 💑 Emotional proximity is that which incites sparks.

4. Replace the routine with a "template" 🛏️

The same poses, the same place, the same scenario ... It lulls passion! 💭 When sex becomes predictable, it loses magic. Try new places, new roles, new fantasies! 🎭 Experiment in bed is what will raise passion to a new level! 🌟

5. forget about her pleasure 💃

If you do not care about her pleasure, you automatically put a cross on your passion. Sex is a bilateral process! 🌈 Pay attention to her feelings, listen to her desires and strive to make her happy. When you invest in her pleasure, passion will go off the way! 🔥🔥

Conclusion:

Passion does not appear on its own - it needs to be supported! If you pay attention to the little things, experiment and take care of her pleasure, the relationship will remain hot, and passion will be eternal. 💥🔥

Do not forget: relationships are not only sex, but also mutual respect and attention. Invest, and passion will not go out! ❤️

💫 The story that taught me to be confidentBefore, photoshoot..

💫 The story that taught me to be confident

Before, photoshoots were a real challenge. I was always worried that I didn’t fit the standards or that there was something wrong with my body. But one day, during a photoshoot, I had to work with an amazing photographer who had a completely different view of beauty.

He told me: “You don’t have to be perfect to be beautiful. Your true power is in how you feel right now, in this moment. And when you relax, when you are completely in yourself, that will be the most beautiful photo.” 📸✨

Then I realized that beauty is not just appearance, it is how you feel about yourself, how you accept and love your uniqueness. From that day on, I began to look at myself differently: not as a set of ideal proportions, but as a living, sensual being who deserves love and respect. 💕

And you know what? Since then, the photos have gotten better because I started to truly feel beautiful. Not because someone told me so, but because I felt it myself. 💖

They say touch is a language that doesn't require words... 🤍..

They say touch is a language that doesn't require words... 🤍

One light touch can say more than long phrases: "I'm near", "I feel you", "you are important to me"

Have you noticed how differently a woman can touch - tenderly, caringly, playfully or passionately? 😌

✨ A little interactive for you, men:

What is the most memorable touch of a woman for you?

Femininity is not just an external image, it is an internal ..

Femininity is not just an external image, it is an internal light that burns brightly even in the simplest moments 🌸✨. It is the power to be gentle, vulnerable and confident at the same time. What do you think is true femininity for you? 💭 How does it manifest itself in relationships? 😌

Don't forget that tenderness is not weakness, but the very magic that makes the world brighter and warmer 💕. How does it inspire you? 💖

Sexology and the Internet: friend or foe? 🧠📲Guys, I'll be ho..

Sexology and the Internet: friend or foe? 🧠📲

Guys, I'll be honest - most of us first learned about "sex" not from a conversation with our parents, but from the Internet. Or from conversations with the same guys who also learned about it... from the Internet 😅

Today, the web is both a treasure trove of knowledge and a source of myths. As a sexologist, I see this every day.

Here's how it is:

🔸 Pros of the Internet:

Access to information - fast, free, convenient

You can find really useful resources, learn about physiology, desires, boundaries, pleasure

People start talking about sex openly - it's cool and important

🔸 But there are also cons:

Pornography often creates unrealistic expectations (sizes, roles, "shoulds")

A lot of fake "advice" that has nothing to do with reality

Men start comparing themselves to screen images and feel guilty, anxious or "incompetent"

💬 What to do?

Be critical. Learn to filter. And if you want to understand more deeply - you can read sexologists (yes, people like me), ask questions, and get to know yourself for real.

Sexology is not a "science about women" or "how to become an alpha". This is about you - about your body, psychology, confidence, relationships and pleasure, in which both are comfortable.

📍And how did the Internet influence your ideas about sex? Was there anything that you had to rethink later?

Write in the comments - we'll figure it out together.

What does sexology mean to you?(You can choose several optio..

What does sexology mean to you?

(You can choose several options)

Why sexology is not about vulgarity 🚫🍑Guys, let's honestly. ..

Why sexology is not about vulgarity 🚫🍑

Guys, let's honestly. We saw the word “sexology”-and immediately thoughts: “Oh, something piquant! 🔥 ”,“ They will tell you how to become a macho in bed 💪🏼 ”. Well, partially true - I'm really talking about sex. But not as you are used to seeing in memes or in dubious publics 😏

Sexology is not about dirty jokes and “life hacks for seduction” 🍌. This is about the knowledge of your body, your desires and needs 🧠💬. About the ability to talk to the partner honestly, without shame and guesses. This is about the psyche, hormones, stress, erection (yes, and this too), about why sometimes you don’t want to - and this is normal 👌🏼

Have you ever wondered why everything seems to be ok in life, and in bed-as if it turned off? 🥴 or why did not “get up” at the most inopportune moment - and now are you afraid of repetition? 😓 Here is sexology and helps in such situations. Without a cring. Without moralizing. Without "you must be an alpha 24/7" 🦍

Male sexuality is not only about “working or not working” ⚙️. This is about understanding yourself. And when you know what is happening to you - you do not lose confidence, but on the contrary, you become stronger 💥

So no, sexology is not about vulgarity. This is about growing up 🧔🏻‍♂️. And, if you want, about real male power - without masks and pathos.

Forgetting the rules, mixing the incompatible - that's what ..

Forgetting the rules, mixing the incompatible - that's what sometimes makes the day really interesting. What if you wash not only your clothes, but also your stereotypes? 😏

🔥 As you glide through life, sometimes you need to pause and..

🔥 As you glide through life, sometimes you need to pause and give your butt some attention. 😉 When you're confident in yourself, everything glides like butter. And even the most challenging moments become easy when you know your energy is in the right rhythm.Don't forget: confidence is your ultimate style. 🖤

💋 Sexual Impulses: Throw in a tip, share a fantasy and get s..

💋 Sexual Impulses: Throw in a tip, share a fantasy and get special access! 🔥

🌶️ And now for the most daring! Write your sexual fantasy or dream that you want to fulfill. It can be something unusual or completely ordinary - the main thing is that it should be open and sincere!

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